Don’t yell so much.
Teach us more.
We want more involvement.
Let us express ourselves.
Encourage us more.
Throughout this case study it is clearly evident what the children want. The common theme from all the answers was, the children wanted to improve their skill and develop as players. They wanted to be active and have fun with their friends, rather than win soccer matches. So whats the problem and the main reason why children stop playing the game they love?
In countries, such as Australia, soccer is not seen as the number one sport and the children don’t organise themselves as much and the game has developed in a more structured manner based on an adult system. The problem stems from the high level of adult involvement! Can you tell me why this is a problem? Above we have the answers to why children play soccer, straight from the children’s mouth. Adults, although with the best intentions, apply pressure to their children and enforce an adult definition of success. Success can have many definitions and outcomes, but in this case, “you are successful as a coach and as a player only if you are winning games.
“Winning games!” The children aren’t worried about winning games at a young age. Check the above list, it ranks last in every question. There is nothing wrong with winning, but having this as the sole criteria and objective in junior soccer is very limiting and harmful. Do you ever wonder why parents yell and scream abuse at junior soccer games? When winning is the only objective, it leads to some of the ugliest scenes in junior soccer, such as hysterical and abusive shouting by both coaches and parents and even club officials.
When children are exposed to abuse like this it results in too much pressure being placed on them. What was supposed to be fun and enjoyable, now becomes scary and highly emotional. The drop out rate from junior soccer is far too high and this is due to the over emphasise placed on winning games combined with the bad behaviour of coaches and parents.
Just remember next time your watching junior soccer, the children playing are not little adults. What they want is clear for everyone to see. Read through their answers again and try to enjoy the experience.